Fighting Fit

Sally Brampton on love and marriage

Aunt Sally

My first and only boyfriend betrayed me, leaving me shattered and depressed. I haven't had a relationship in 14 years

• Aunt Sally

• Aunt Sally

Why can’t I stop being horrible to men who like me?

Sally Brampton advises a 26-year-old woman who feels she is too cold to fall in love

• I left my wife and children for another woman

• I’m 25, and I feel I’ve made the biggest mistake of my life

Sally Bramtpon on break-ups and depression

My boyfriend recently asked me to move out of our flat

Should I write him off as a selfish man and move on with my life?

• How can I finally get over my boyfriend?

• Unhappily ever after

On again, off again

I've been having an affair on and off for the past 14 years. Why don’t I have the self-respect to say no, and why do I risk so much for so little?

• How do I tell my ex-boyfriend how I feel?

• I've got back with my old boyfriend

Growing up or growing apart?

I'm growing apart from the first man I slept with. I'm really attached to him but I'm only 19. How do you tear yourself away from someone you don’t want to leave? Do I have to make myself hate him?

• I’m 20 and he’s 41. Is he too old for me?

• On again, off again

Do I love him because I'm lonely?

When I first met my boyfriend, we were both instantly besotted, but after I moved in things changed. We broke up and now I miss him. What should I do?

• I’m 25, and I feel I’ve made the biggest mistake of my life

• In a state

Sally Brampton on children and family issues

Disapproval may drive him into secrecy

Our son is 32 years old and seems in every way masculine and adjusted, but I recently found him dressing up in women's underwear. Should I tell him that I saw him?

• I want to give my step-daughter away

• My elderly parents recently announced that they have disinherited me