Ariel Leve
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The Olympics are filled with stories of heartbreak and disappointment. Every day there’s another athlete whose dream has been shattered and whose purpose in life has been destroyed. There are spectacular setbacks and phenomenal accounts of underachieving. It’s like a global convention for living with defeat.
The good news is if you make it into the Olympics at least you have an exact time and place to pinpoint where it all went downhill.
Everyone focuses on the winners at the Olympics but the majority of the athletes there are losing. There are 10,700 competing for 302 gold medals. Everywhere you look, expectations of triumph vanish in an instant. And yet, while dying on the inside, they manage to talk about the experience being the important thing.
Except Bradley Saunders, the British boxer, who declared that he didn’t mind losing because the pressure to win was too much and he was eager to get home.
Who can blame him? But instead of respecting his honesty, there was a photo of him in the papers with the headline ‘LOSER’. So not only had he let himself down, but he let the entire country down?
One athlete who lost out to Koreans said, ‘I’ll meet up with my family and hopefully they’ll give me a hug because right now I need one.” No news on whether the family came through.
Just once I’d love to hear an Olympian say, “I’ll be thrilled if I come in last.” What’s wrong with that? Why is there such shame in losing?
Last week when the British divers – Tom Daley and Blake Alderidge – messed up, early, clearly it came as a surprise.
Tom, the 14 year old who had received the majority of the attention and was labeled “Britain’s Hope For The Future” will go on to dive again and he’ll be fine. He’s cute, he’s got at least three more Olympics in him – including London 2012, and everyone adores him.
His partner Blake is 26. And most likely this is his last chance. Plus, he’s had surgery twice for detached retinas. He was almost twice his partner’s age and he’s worked harder, longer.
After losing the competition he showed signs of being human. Instead of saying they both messed up, he insinuated the majority of the blame was on Tom. Suddenly any sympathy for him evaporated. People thought it was wrong for him to express frustration and criticized him for not displaying the Olympic spirit.
And what’s the Olympic spirit? Faking it no matter what? Like hiding the seven-year-old Chinese girl from TV viewers because she isn’t pretty enough? That’s the spirit.
When is a win really a win anyway? Michael Phelps and the American team won the 400-meter relay by 0.08 seconds. Eight-hundredths of a second. Who knew they could make a stopwatch that precise?
I can’t imagine how the losers feel about that relay. After all the years of training, day after day, not eating ice cream or drinking beer or sleeping late – after all that you end up coming in second by 0.08 of a second? How do you not moan about that for the rest of your life?
There are times I’ve tried to imagine the discipline it would take to train as an Olympic athlete. I can’t even think about this for more than two minutes without giving up.
So I think the losers in the Olympics are far more heroic. Because they have to go on without the victory – without the medal – hearing everyone say, “You did your best’.
They have to get up and try not to think about how if only they had pointed their toe a little bit straighter, if only they longer finger nails to touch the wall an eight hundredth of a second faster, if only they hadn’t dislocated their elbow or stopped mid-way from a cramp.
I’d much rather lose by a significant margin than almost win. Rather than tell people I didn’t win I would tell them I was almost last.
Being a loser didn’t hurt John McCain. He was 790th out of 795 in his class at the U.S. Naval Academy. I suppose it’s how you live with the loss that matters. My father came in 19,000-something in the NYC Marathon. He beat over 8,000 other runners. Was he a winner or a loser?

Ariel Leve is a writer with The Sunday Times Magazine. Together with investigative features and in-depth interviews she writes a humorous weekly column, Cassandra. She has twice been nominated for British Press Awards. This year she was Highly Commended as Feature Writer Of The Year. She was awarded Feature Writer of the Year for Magazine Design & Journalism Awards, 2008. The Cassandra Chronicles will be published by Portobello Books (UK) and Harper Perennial (US and Canada) in 2009. Click below to read her Cassandra column
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always a fresh view that's well worth reading - thanks.
raia prokhovnik, oxford, uk
Let's be realistic - Everybody who went to the Games is an OLYMPIAN - very special bragging rights go with that. Plus, they are fitter and look better than they ever will again. They have learned about achieving excellence (discipline etc). And anyway, ice cream and beer are poison.
dan, tokyo, japan
For the people who are keen to describe 4th in an Olympic final as losing, are you mad? Were any of you ever good enough to get to the Olympics? I have my doubts. I wasn't either, though I was a dead keen rower in the day. I worked hard but I just didn't have the talent. Every Olympian is a winner!
Cath, palmerston north, New Zealand
try your best that nobody could blame you!this is a game,if someone win that someon lose!
IVan, CHINA,
In China,the gold medals are the politic action,displaying our country all the sorts of sucess!nothing alse!
IVan, CHINA,
The term "loser" is most inappropriate when used to describe the athletes participating in the Olympics. How ironic that the dazzling apotheosis of a certain few athletes (the very core of the Olympic ethos) can turn the other performances into so much cud to be chewn by the couch-bound public.
CCasassa, London, UK
I hate to sound curmudgeonly but up to the 1988 we were always thrashed by the East Europeans. We always said they were "cheating" which in the end came down to the State putting huge resources into sport for political reasons. Are we now any better than the hated DDR? But... Come on TeamGB!
Grahame, Glasgow, UK
We're third in the medal table, exceeded only by the USA (pop. quarter of a billion) and China (pop. a billion plus). Come on guys, what more do you want?
Rob, London, UK
Yes, loosers in Olympic are far more heroic,because they participate in a world event and struggle to reach the top. When they fail, they come back with a smile packed with universal brotherhood which is the moto of games. I salute those unsung heroes.achievey
Nanda Kishore Mishra, Bhubaneswar, India
Thank you Mille from London - you took the words out of my mouth
Cynthia, London, UK
Spoken like a New Labour Politician!? Anyone who competes in sport knows winning is everything. That is how to approach sport and the way our kids should be taught. With this PC dribble about no winners and losers being taught in schools in 12 years time we will have no medals!
Dean, Southampton, England
Andre, Howard and so many others, week in, week out: this column is about IRONY and you need to work on GETTING IT
Phil - not sure about your point re Zara Phillips, reigning World Champion
Mille, London,
The first Greek games were a religious offering to the deities. Each gave of his best. Cheating was pointless for the gods would know. The games died when the old religion died amid corruption and partisanship. Today's Olympics have gone the same way, and should now be abandoned. I don't want them.
Rob Bryant, Bromley, England
If politics is showbusiness for ugly people is competitve sport showbiz for the terminally boring and literal-minded? Dan and Howard - any opinions on this?
Shirley, London,
Some of the commentators here would definitely be in contention for a gold medal in "Sense of Humour Failure".
Esther, London,
It is exactly this sort of attitude that stops sport moving forward in Britain and doesn't allow it to receive the funding it needs. We expect failure and accept it, that's why there are not the facilities to allow us to excel in track and field as we deem it a lost cause.
Jon, Oxford,
NO! the winning spirit is what is missing from British sport and we should strive to win there are already too many second bests. It was suggested the other day that we should have entered a football team, ironic when we couldn't even make it to Europe let alone Bejing!
Dave Farmer, Broxbourne, England
I believe the original Olympic ideals included bringing people together: winners & losers.
ian cheese, london, uk
I thought you Brits loved losers, Frank Bruno, Eddie the Eagle, Zara Phillips, Jimmy White...............
PHIL O' KEEFFE, Dublin, Ireland
What a load of rubbish! Leve obviously doesn't enjoy any sporting activity and has the "I'm never going to win anything so I'll just make excuses about my failings", and say spiteful things about people who want to win at something.
Howard, Savannah,
The next phase in retro-active UK - hope to lose. It's not enough to the I-hate-everything-about-English-culture that we have lost our way, never to return. Lets celebrate the losers - lets relate to them!
Mediocrity is all the modern, PC, equality driven muppets can deal with.
Dan, London, UK
That attitude is exactly what Britain needs to reject. Losing is not something that should be accepted lightly and, in every loss it is important to learn something that would promote success the next time. Focus on giving maximum effort in areas where you choose - that's what olympic athletes do.
Andre, Portland, USA
Ariel, I do believe you are becoming British... 'It's not the winning, it's the taking part' and all that. Us Brits of a certain age will remember the enthusiastic loser, Eddie the Eagle, whose skiiing attempts were more watched than those of any slick, Lycra-clad Swiss athlete.
Annie, Hampshire,